She Reconnected Just to Tell Me She Was Abroad. Congratulations?

She asked how I was, announced she was abroad, and apparently concluded our international press conference.  An old college friend recently ...

I Was So in Love. He Wasn’t Even Cute.

  Young me added romantic lighting, background music, and several attractive features that reality never provided. When I was young, I had a...

Is It Okay to Have No Friends? Honestly, Yes.

No crowd, no gossip, no social obligations—just my computer, my pets, and peace.  Is it okay to have no friends? I think it can be. I have h...

Facebook Is Not Your Personal Courtroom

  One angry post, seventy unqualified jurors, and absolutely no testimony from the other side. I do not understand why some people use Faceb...

I Stayed Because I Felt Sorry for Him. That Wasn’t Love.

Feeling sorry for someone may explain why you stayed—but it does not require you to stay forever.  People ask why someone stays in a toxic r...

We’re Friends. We’re Not the Same Person.

Being friends does not mean we share one personality, one reputation, or joint custody of each other’s mistakes. They say birds of a feather...

I Don’t Want to Go to Your Party. Please Don’t Make It Personal.

  Sorry, I already have plans—with my couch, my pets, and absolutely nobody else. I have never been a party person. Some people hear the wor...

She Said She’d Destroy Me. I Blocked Her and Went to Bed.

She wanted a war. Unfortunately, I had already activated bedtime mode.  I once had a friend who eventually became an enemy. I didn’t organiz...

I Don’t Miss Him. I Miss the Eight Years I Wasted.

I didn’t need closure. I needed to stop renewing the subscription.   The One Relationship I Actually Regret I don’t regret most of my past r...